Congratulations! You’re getting married! You have found a person you want to make a long-term commitment to, and you both have a vision of what your lives together will be like. However, you are about to embark on one of the hardest challenges we as humans take on by choice. A healthy marriage is a triumph of effort and skill, the result of gut-wrenching risk taking and persistence. A healthy marriage is a function of your capacity to get out of yourself and hear your partner without reacting, even when he or she is expressing something that is difficult for you. A healthy marriage comes from a daily practice of tolerance, generosity, sensuality, letting go, acceptance, and unconditional love. Sound simple? If not, I recommend that you reach out to talk candidly about such crucial topics as:
Every marriage has challenges and problems, I can guarantee that, and I will tell you with certainty that your partner will not meet all of your social, financial, sexual, intellectual, and emotional needs for the rest of your life. Period! Pre-marital counseling can help you identify where the areas of difficult are likely to be in your marriage, so you can be pro-active in addressing these issues. If you have discussed every difficult topic that I could think of in counseling, it makes it easier to bring issues up when you are alone together. It’s amazing how hard it can be to raise sensitive topics with the person with whom we are most intimate, as we are often so fearful of disappointing or being judged by our partner, that we stay silent, and the pressure and unhappiness mounts until whatever it is grows and magnifies. Attending pre-marital counseling can set a norm for your marriage that if there are difficulties you cannot resolve; you will seek assistance quickly. Most marriages flounder for seven or more years, before the parties seek help. Do your future in-laws a favor and schedule your 1stpre-marital therapy session today! Let me guide you on how to setup and maintain a healthy pathway going forward with this life changing decision.
For premarital counseling, I offer a unique, 5 session program called PREP. Click the link below for the program details.