Every couple has challenges such as poor communication, constant conflict, trust issues, sexual incompatibility, and infidelity. As each person individually evolves within the relationship, how does this play out over time? How does the relationship meet your primary needs?
Each couple brings with them their individual complexities, each with their own family and emotional history, assumptions, blind spots, passions, aversions, pet peeves, turn-ons etc. Simply put, it’s Complicated.
Just as disruption in an individual can signal normal evolution, disruption in a relationship may usher in a need to grow into a new space. Whatever stage your relationship is in, learning how to deal with the above relational challenges, will help you master the inevitable adversity you will face and bolster your healthy growth together.
Being engaged to be married is an exciting time. However, it can also bring up some fears, given the high divorce rate among couples today, or because of past relationships that haven’t worked out. With nearly two-decades of experience helping couples in all stages of relationships, I can give you the most important tools and insight you need to create a healthy, loving, secure intimate relationship that can last a lifetime.
Sex and intimacy are core elements of the human experience, and everyone has fantasies, feelings and desires regarding sex. However, because of the complexities surrounding these issues, sex and intimacy are difficult topics to discuss. Sex and intimacy are tightly woven together within a relationship. It is not uncommon to find that people struggling with communication and conflict within their relationship also suffer from sexual concerns. If things are going well in your life, sex may feel effortless – easy and natural. However, if things are not going well, sex and intimacy (or lack thereof) can be a source of strain, eating away at your self-esteem and a constant source of pain and frustration.
The Sex Avoidance is a defense mechanism. When thinking of intimacy or engaging in sex, the person with sexual avoidance feels emotional distress and could manifest physical symptoms, such as nausea and tensed muscles, or even may have a panic attack.
Tantric Healing seeks to reveal and release the energy knots that block a person’s full experience and expression of their sexual energy. These knots come from adverse experiences of emotional and sexual trauma resulting from such things as betrayal, assault, molestation, or rape. Energy knots are psychosomatic or psychoid having an emotional, psychological, and physiological nexus felt in an area of the body.
Sexual molestation and/or sexual violence can cause unimaginable damage to the lives of the people who live through these experiences. There are innumerable survivors of sexual abuse trauma and sexual assault. Living through sexual abuse trauma can change the way a person views and interacts with the world, making it difficult for them to experience healthy intimacy and relationships. Without the help of professional sexual abuse trauma treatment, it may become challenging to have a healthy sex life.